9 Orgasmic Pregnancy Sex Positions for Every Trimester
Sex during pregnancy can be a giant question mark for some people. Is pregnancy sex safe? Will it hurt the baby? What is happening?! Here… why don’t you sit down and relax? You’re pregnant, take advantage, and let’s figure this all out.
First, don’t worry…
“Sex during pregnancy is healthy and encouraged up until the final weeks of pregnancy,” says Shannon Chavez, licensed psychologist and K-Y’s sex therapist. “There are a lot of myths around harming the baby and that too much movement can be dangerous—both of which are not true. The baby is protected in the body and if you are not having any pregnancy complications or have been advised by a doctor to be on bed rest, you are safe to have as much sex as you want during pregnancy.”
… but check with your gyno first
“Ask your gyno or midwife exactly what type of sexual activity is safe to do by yourself or with your partner, and when you can do it,” says Aliyah Moore, PhD, resident certified sex therapist at SexualAlpha. “Most doctors advise against penetration or orgasms for women with high-risk pregnancies. These include women who have a history of miscarriage or preterm labor, a low-lying placenta (placenta previa), an incompetent cervix, or are carrying more than one baby.” There may be workarounds, like no penetration, or sexual touching but no orgasm, but either way, play it safe and ask your doc.
Make tweaks where you can
“Once your doctor has given you the all-clear, there are two important considerations when it comes to having comfortable and fabulous sex throughout your pregnancy,” says Heather Jeffcoat, DPT, who specializes in treating women with painful sex and author of Sex Without Pain: A Self Treatment Guide to the Sex Life You Deserve. “The first is controlling the depth of penetration if you’re having pain with deep thrusting. While this isn’t harmful to the baby, you can ease any discomfort you might have by choosing positions that limit the depth of penetration.”
A penis or toy bumper like OhNut Stackable Rings can limit the depth of penetration; a ramp or pillow can get body parts where they need to go and vibrators and toys can help when you just want to lie back and be serviced.
It’s totally normal to be super horny
“Pregnancy causes an increase in vaginal secretions, breast sensitivity, and increased blood flow in the pelvic region. For some people, libido increases and sex becomes quite enjoyable,” says Kecia Gaither, MD, MPH, FACOG, double board-certified in ob-gyn and maternal fetal medicine, Director of Perinatal Services at NYC Health and Hospitals/Lincoln.
Here’s how to best take advantage of that sexy, “increased blood flow in the pelvis region” situation.
“During the first trimester, it’s normal to still be getting used to the concept of an actual human being growing inside of you. Don’t worry, you are not going to hurt the baby… For those that tend to be a bit conservative in their sexual escapades, missionary style is a safe position at this point in pregnancy,” said Angela Jones, ob-gyn and Astroglide’s Sexual Health Advisor.
“This gentle move promotes shallow penetration, making the overall experience comfortable for you and your penetrating partner (who might be terrified their penis or strap-on will poke the baby’s head). With all the blood flow directed to your clitoris, grinding your pelvis against your partner will feel even better than usual,” says Moore. “This position is also perfect for couples who want to engage in sexual activity without penetration, allowing full-on stimulation of the labia and clitoris.”
If you’re going with missionary, just notice how your body feels about it. “Some women feel more nauseous on their backs,” says Heather Bartos MD, ob-gyn and founder of the ME Spot Movement. “And as some women get bigger, they feel too much pressure on their abdomen.”
Hold My Waist, Honey
Standing positions aren’t completely out during the first trimester, you just need to hold on. “Place your palms on a sturdy wall, hold a grounding stance, and then ask your partner to hold your waist, and enter you from behind. For clitoral stimulation, have your partner hold a vibrator and place it on your clit. To reduce falls, don’t stand on anything,” recommends Janet Brito, PhD, a licensed clinical psychologist, AASECT Certified Sex Therapist, and supervisor at the Center for Sexual and Reproductive Health in Honolulu, Hawaii.
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“In the second trimester, the pregnancy will push you to be a bit more creative. It is not recommended to lie flat on your back beyond the 16th week of pregnancy due to the weight of the uterus on the vasculature or blood supply that supplies not only the uterus, but the rest of the body.” Not to worry! “This is where you can be a bit more creative…. This includes sex from a side position, the woman-on-top, or sex from behind,” says Jones.
“Sit on a chair or the edge of the bed facing away and lower yourself down on your penetrating partner. Find an angle that both of you feel the most comfortable with, then guide your partner’s hands to explore and stimulate your erogenous zones like your sensitive breasts and clit,” says Moore. “If you want to make things more intimate and sexy, consider doing this move in front of a mirror. Plus, use sex toys on yourself or your partner.”
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Bartos polled 50 of her patients and the winner for “maximum aesthetics and functionality” was—ta-da!— doggy style. Why? Not only does it create the feeling of a natural waist again, it also takes pressure off the growing uterus, per Bartos. Plus, “some women felt the tilt of the uterus provided more pleasure,” Bartos reported.
This is like spooning, but the back spoon is a bit more horizontal, explains Bartos. “This has the benefit of aesthetics (for lack of a better word) and functionality, as the partner can reach around and externally stimulate the partner (or she could self-stimulate),” Bartos adds.
Third Trimester (Almost There!)
“Any position that takes stress off your back—doggy style, sex from the side, woman-on-top, facing your partner or reverse—are all great options for the third trimester. Keep in mind, sex is more than penetrative. Pay attention to massaging the vulva and perineum, as these are hot spots!” says Jones.
Spooning For You
“Once you reach the last three months of pregnancy, you want to make sex as comfortable as possible,” says Moore. “Go for sex positions where you can lie on your side, and where there will be less tension on your belly, uterus, and back. Spooning is an intimate and soothing position that allows for more sensual, slower, and shallower penetrations. Again, you can spice this up by using sex toys like vibrators. Just make sure that you keep your toys extra clean before and after using them.”
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“During your third trimester, go outside of the box, and try Sensate Focus Touch (aka mindful touch) as you may find that penetration is uncomfortable,” recommends Brito. Sensate Focus is basically setting aside the time to touch each other—either sexually or not—and just really focus on the sensations. “Sensate Focus gives you the opportunity to explore each other’s bodies without the pressure to perform, but instead to be open and curious to learn about each other’s bodies and appreciate the changes,” Brito adds.
“If penetration is uncomfortable, I recommend outercourse, or non-penetrative sexual activities, like making out naked, kissing, and grinding or mutual masturbation or oral sex,” Brito suggests. Try covering yourselves with a sh*t-ton of lube and going in for some mutual masturbation.
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Published at Fri, 29 Oct 2021 19:14:00 +0000